PRACTICAL TIPS AND HELPFUL HINTS
Letters To Support Application
For Parole
It is probably unwise to offer
to write a letter to support an application for parole,
but on a very rare occasion your prisoner may ask you
to help him in this way. This is a slightly tricky subject
and we would appreciate your consulting the executive
committee first before writing such a letter. Basically,
you are ill advised to go into any discussion about
the conviction or sentence. All that you would probably
be qualified to say in such a letter would be the circumstances
and length of your acquaintance with the person concerned,
and without any ‘psychological assessment’, you could
perhaps give an opinion on his state of mind, change
of heart or intentions etc. This is an area where you
have to be a little bit careful not to be ‘used’, and
certainly you need never feel pressurised by the prisoner
to do anything like this.
Passing On Messages Outside The
Prison For The Prisoners
According to the rules it is not
permitted to contact others outside the prison on the
prisoner’s behalf without the permission of the Superintendent.
Should a prisoner make this request of you, we advise
you to sound helpful but non-committal until you have
checked with the PFA Executive Committee.
“Gentle As Doves And As Wary
As Serpents”
As in ordinary life, you can not
totally believe everything you hear. Often you hear
only one side of the story and that can be a very much
edited version. Often those you visit will be very open,
honest, humble and genuine – but probably not all. Not
all recognise the truth anyway, even about themselves.
Commonsense, sensitivity, sound judgment and perhaps
a lack of gullibility are advisable. The prisoner’s
world is not our world and he will evolve his own ways
of coping. Our job is not to judge but to understand.
Being Used
Some prisoners are expert ‘con’
men. Experience helps one to judge sincerity. It is
not necessarily always wrong to let them ‘use’ you to
get the things they need, but be on guard and do not
be afraid to set the limits in as friendly a way as
possible.
Visits In The Middle Of The Sentence
After the initial shock of coming
into prison and adjusting to the situation as best he
can, the prisoner then has to cope with simply getting
through the time. The visitor can help to relieve the
monotony by supplying books, suggesting courses to study,
encouraging the prisoner to do exercises (to keep fit
and relieve tension) and generally try to help him to
overcome the daily frustrations and problems.
Visits Leading Up To And Prior
To Release
Release from
prison, although eagerly awaited by every inmate, is
nevertheless a time of high anxiety for the individual.
Far from all his problems being solved on release, a
new set of problems has to be faced. The visitor can
help by discussing and thinking through with
the inmate what can be done about work, accommodation,
relationships etc. Some other organisations may be able
to help (a list of some useful organisations are to
be found in section 6).
Some of the prisoner’s worst fears may
emerge just before his release: he may be afraid of
rejection from family, employers, and society in general.
He may be afraid of his own ability to cope. It may
help him to sort out his thoughts if you consider together
with him the direction that his life was following before
his arrest, which in many cases was headlong towards
destruction. Then together you can consider possible
alternative routes for his life, and then help him to
gain the confidence that he needs in order to try again.
A lot of encouragement is sometimes required at this
point. Perhaps it would help to give him a little warning
of some of the problems he may encounter so that he
can prepare himself. It is important to discuss his
fears with him and to try and build his confidence. |